I had studied the language, read about the culture, and even watched documentaries. But living here taught me
lessons – both surprising and practical – that no textbook ever mentioned.
Some of them made me smile, others caught me off guard, and all of them made my life here much richer.
1. Punctuality is not just a habit – it’s a social contract
I’d read that Germans are punctual, but until I lived here, I didn’t realise how deep this goes. Arriving even five minutes late to a meeting can feel like breaking a promise. And it’s not about being “strict” – it’s about respect. Once I adapted, I noticed my days ran more smoothly and I felt more organised myself.
2. Bureaucracy is… intense
In Germany, paperwork is everywhere – from registering your address (Anmeldung) to changing your internet provider. I learned quickly that having complete, neatly organised documents (often in a binder) isn’t overkill – it’s survival. And yes, sometimes you need to book official appointments weeks in advance.
💡 Tip: Always double-check you have every document before going to an office. Missing one piece can mean starting all over again.
3. Small talk is different
In many cultures, you can have a friendly chat about the weather with anyone. In Germany, conversations tend to be more purposeful. People might skip small talk entirely and get straight to the point – and that’s not considered rude, it’s just efficient. Over time, I grew to appreciate the honesty and clarity.
4. Sundays are sacred
Most shops are closed on Sundays, and at first it can be inconvenient. But soon I started to love the quiet – it’s a day for family, rest, and slowing down. Now I plan my shopping ahead and enjoy the weekly pause.
5. Cash is still king
While card payments are growing, many smaller shops, cafés, and even doctors still prefer cash. My first week, I learned this the hard way when I couldn’t pay for lunch because I only had my debit card.
💡 Tip: Always carry at least €20–30 in cash, just in case.
6. Directness is a form of honesty
Germans tend to say what they think – directly. At first, I mistook this for bluntness, but it’s actually about clarity. Once you adjust, it’s refreshing: no guessing games, no reading between the lines.
7. Nature is part of life
Whether it’s hiking in the Alps, cycling along rivers, or strolling through the forest, spending time outdoors is deeply ingrained in German life. I learned that “fresh air” (Frischluft) is not just a phrase here – it’s a lifestyle.
8. Integration takes effort – but it’s worth it
The more I spoke German, joined local events, and tried new traditions, the more I felt at home. Yes, it can be exhausting at first, but the reward is feeling like you truly belong.
Final thought
Living in Germany taught me not only language and culture, but also patience, adaptability, and the value of clear communication. It’s not always easy – but it’s always interesting.
